News bulletin: You are not the center of the universe!
It is easy to forget this important tidbit in the hustle and bustle of a busy work life. We run from meeting to important assignment assuming life will always be that way. No need to attend that professional association meeting. No time for lunch with old friends.
Until something shocks you out of your hectic life. Until you need something. Once you have been laid off or want to change jobs you realize how much you need other people.
Odds are people you dropped while you were so busy or those who do not know you yet won’t return your phone calls. They are too busy doing what you were doing before you were laid off, or before you needed them.
We hear this complaint a lot. “Why doesn’t she return my calls?” “Doesn’t he know how rude that is?” They won’t return your calls if they don’t know you.
Everyone knows someone who has been laid off or in some way finds themselves in a job search. After realizing they should have networked before they needed contacts, these folks become quite responsive to job seekers who call them. They know how it feels when no one will answer your call.
Yesterday I went to an association meeting and encountered a woman who looked vaguely familiar. However I couldn’t place her. She slipped out of the room early before I could speak to her but before she left she came to my table and quietly whispered in my ear that she appreciated how nice I was when she was in her job search. She wanted me to know that my small kindness, something I only vaguely recalled, meant a lot to her. It made me smile that I helped her.
I am not an expert in networking, although perhaps I am compared to some people, but small kindnesses even in a very busy workday, go a long way to helping other people and eventually come back to you. This is the true meaning of networking.
So take the time to meet people before your job is impacted. This way you can ease into the job search mode by networking seamlessly with people you already know. And after you find you next position, please return phone calls from those who need to network. Those desperate phone calls remind you that you should always network before you need to.
Here are 5 tips for building networking contacts before you need them to help you find a new job:
1. Be active in business associations.
When you go to meetings, plan to meet at least 3 people you did not know before. Get their business cards. Invite them to connect with you on LinkedIn. Inquire about their experiences. Share yours. Be friendly. Next time you go to that association meeting, I bet they remember you!
2. Return phone calls from people trying to network with you.
Those folks will get a job eventually and they will remember your kindness. They will be more likely to help you when it is your turn in the barrel.
3. Be active on LinkedIn.
Extend invitations. Accept invitations. But don’t stop there. Use LinkedIn as more than a repository for your connections. Participate in discussions. Ask questions. Comment. Share ideas. This is networking for shy people!
4. Be friendly on airplanes and in public.
Collect business cards wherever you go and connect with those folks later on LinkedIn. Jot a note on the business card to remind you where you met. Put the contact information in your contact file. Then start a conversation so you build relationships with these new contacts.
5. Ask people outside work for advice on business projects.
You get a different business perspective and network at the same time when you talk to other folks professional to professional.
Networking is easy if you do a little at a time. As Mama used to say, it is easier to be friendly. It hardly hurts at all!
Check out The Interview Doctor’s 7 Tips for Career Success for the Shy Person. Whether you are a shy person or not these tips will help you in your networking.

What is a person supposed to do? Why build a network? Why contact people? For the most part, they will NOT have a job for you to consider. They may NOT be interested in talking with you. After all, people are SO busy these days.
I live on a boat! Yes, you read that correctly. Since 2012 I’ve spent most of the time living on our boat, Good Karma, sailing around the eastern United States. For much of that time we did not have a land based home or possessions except the boat and our cars.
In return, Kermit makes space for me to work. I probably spend six to 10 hours a day, seven days a week on The Interview Doctor, either writing or working with clients on the phone. Over the years I’ve worked hard to position my business to serve almost all my clients to the telephone so I could work remote. Now I have clients all over the country.
I love the quiet beauty of this lifestyle. I love having the scenery change. I love solving the daily challenges inherent in boating with my husband. I love the wonderful, often quirky boating people we meet from all over the world. At the same time, I also love my clients and building a successful business.
Do interviews give you hives? Well, strap on your big kid pants because the hiring process is about to get much worse.
Nancy came to me for job search coaching after being laid off as a Procurement Director from W.W. Grainger, a huge MRO distribution company. She had a diverse background in procurement, marketing, supply chain and business development in several companies giving her flexibility in her next career step.